My definition of Optimism & Pessimism

Well I believe that optimism & pessimism both are two sides of same coin. Every single being experience both these states at some time in their life. These two states are meaningless without considering their impact on the person experiencing them. The "Impact" is the main thing. Suppose a person is optimist about something that this will happen or I will get this and he/she gets relaxed and their effort reduces then such optimism is also harmful. On the other hand if there is a pessimist person and he fears that upcoming storm will destroy his harvest or kill his animals and he built shelter of his animals and proper storage for his harvest before the storm actually hit, in that case the pessimism is good.

I believe that everything in moderation helps us in one way or another. It is the extremes that are dangerous.

Optimism for me is anything that helps me to take preventive & corrective measures, provide me strength to face the challenges of life; something that fuels me makes me courageous, gives me confidence and protects my will.

Pessimism is anything that paralyzes me from taking the required actions, which create so much fear and worry that it blinds me of the opportunities & solution. It’s something that strikes to weaken my belief on possibilities and blessing of Allah, something that can trigger negative though patterns and negatively impact my self image.

Have a blessed day ahead.
Aisha Javed

Your problem is never really your problem. Your reaction to your problem is your problem.

Mostly the only thing that we tend to do about our problems is to complain, cry or worry about them. But neither of them helps us in any way. Complaining to others about our problems, doing continuous brain storming about who is behind all this, how they are trying to harm us, how circumstances are not in our favor, how our limited resources create barriers between us and our dream, how we so wanted to do something but things are never perfect to provide the support for commencement and so on.

We tend to focus so much on the problem that it blinds us of all the possible solution and rob us of the energy that we could use to solve them. It’s like if you hold a piece of paper at arms length you can see the surrounding too but if you bring it too close to your eyes then the only thing visible is that piece of paper, same is the case with problems if you keep them at particular distance and analyze them you can easily solve them but instead if you keep on thinking and worrying about them then they paralyze you.

No problem is powerful enough to impact us for prolonged period of time or that have power to hurt us to greater extend. It is our inaction and inability towards them that causes such results. Our constant worries and fear fuel them and give them power to defeat us.

If in adverse circumstances we act with responsibility, maintain our courage, our faith then we can use our energies in finding solutions and implementing them. With some brain storming and strategy we can we use the same problem to work in our favor and we can develop a staircase of success from it.

So next time you are facing some problem instead of worrying try to control your reaction towards it, refuse to worry or allow that problem to paralyze you and instead focus on all the possible solutions and the best that you can do and then do it.

With this one change you will see that every thing will change and you will emerge as problem solver and next success story in town.

Have a blessed day ahead.

Aisha Javed

The Key

All locks in this world have their key. Sometimes it remains with the lock and sometimes due to certain events, circumstances both are separated but still there was never a lock made in the history without its key.

Same is the case with the problems, every problem no matter how small or big have its solution nearby. For the same reason it is said that “Problems are blessing in disguise”. and these problems sometimes triggers us, sometimes force us to move out of our comfort zone, from our daily routine, from our routine thought patterns and force us to look for solutions, the solutions that are nearby and waiting anxiously for the eye to see them, interpret them and implement them.

But sadly most of us under estimate the power of these problems and tend to get depressed, stressed and simply freak out, start complaining that ohhh God why me? Why this is happening to me? Why people do this to me? Why every time it’s me? And these complain and urge to put the blame on other and feel our self as victim of situation/circumstance overcome us. The result of all this as expected is we loose our self confidence; our self image starts deteriorating, our relations, our work, our health every thing suffers and quality of life goes down and down. The consequences of problems unattended start to emerge and then there is never ending circle to problems starts to emerge.

However if in same situation we maintain our faith in blessing of our creator and keep in mind that He said “No burden will be put on any person that he can not handle” or in other words no one will be tested beyond his limits, meaning that if we are in a tough situation or some problems then it’s an indication to open our eyes and look for solution around us, the solution that is waiting anxiously to be seen. All we need is look of faith, faith in our creator and faith in His confidence in us that yes we can do this, yes we can handle this and that no matter what His blessings, His support & His help in all means is with us and we have the abilities and potential to tackle and defeat this problem and adverse circumstances.

Faith is a magical thing, as soon you develop this it increases your confidence, gives you surplus amount of energy, triggers your creativity, make you courageous, brave enough to face anything, to defeat all sort of problems and adverse circumstances and emerge as winners in all walks of life.

So next time you our in such situation remember my words please don’t doubt your potentials or think about quitting or feel as if you if are victim but instead keep faith, smile and face the problem and see the miracles that how key to solve all your problems, the key to success will come in your hands.

Have a blessed day ahead.

Aisha Javed 

Tea Bag & Us

I believe that majority of us have used tea bags at some time in life. There is one very interesting factor about these tea bags that reflects one of the most important factor of our daily life.

If you put these tea bags in normal or cold water nothing worth drinking will be made however when you put the same bag in the hot water it turns into some thing better, some things that gives us extra energy and wakes our mind.

Same is the case with us; in normal course of life we are relaxed in our comfort zones. Each day the same circle of events and activities is repeated for majority of us and we are happy and comfortable. Very few of us try to do something extra or to groom our self by learning new skills or try to tap our underutilized potentials. We are happy with our daily routine, enjoying the calm pace and even if we are not happy or satisfied with something in our life we only worry about it, complain, find out the persons to put blame on for our miseries but take no step to change. How many of you have experienced this things and how often? It’s just like putting our self in normal or cold water i.e. our comfort zone and creates barriers for our self to become something better.

Then out of no where something so powerful happens that shakes our life rigorously. It’s like some one have forcefully dragged us out of our comfort zone and put us in roller coaster of life. It’s indication that now it’s high time that we should make some required changes and tap our underutilized potentials. We are in the hot water now.

It’s the time when our survival becomes our first priority and we have no choice left but to get in the driving seat and take control. It is at these times that under pressure we take our selves beyond our limitations, we challenge our self to do something more, something better and hence end up tapping on our new potentials, in activating the dormant abilities and if at such times we maintain our faith, our courage and persistently try to overcome these times we end up becoming someone better, someone more capable that not only surprises others around us but also us and we stand there totally amazed thinking wow it’s me, I have done this :-)

Never consider tough times as your enemy or feel as if you are victim. These times are blessing in disguise and if handled positively can help us to create marvelous life of our self and for all others associated with us in some way.

So the next time life puts you in Hot water, instead of complaining and looking for external help try to get in the driving seat and allow miracles to happen.

 Have a blessed day ahead.

Aisha Javed

Thirsty crow from my childhood memories

I was very fond of listening to stories in my childhood and my mother used to narrate a new one each day till I was able to read myself. One of those stories was about a “Thirsty Crow”. The story was like this:

“On one hot summer day a crow was flying in search of water for an hour or so. He was praying to Allah to help him. Suddenly a container with some water caught his eye and he dived towards it. On coming close he realized that container had long narrow top and level of water was quite low. It was not possible for him to reach the water level and drink it. But instead of complaining to Allah and getting discouraged he maintained his faith and look around. He looked around and saw some stones nearby. He started picking and dropping the stones in the container, the water level started to rise and finally it was in crow’s reach. He drank water and thanking Allah who helped him to fulfill his need flew away calmly”

If we try to relate to this story we will realize that many times we are in same situation like this thirsty crow. When we need something badly, we pray so that we can be blessed with it and our prayers do get answered but when we are shown the container with low level of water we instead of looking with faith and thinking why this container was shown to us our mind goes to limitations and we start complaining that why me? Why can’t I have water (what we need)? It was given to others but why not to me? And the long list of complains goes on & on.

How many times do we look around with faith, believing that if I am in this situation and container is shown to me then it means solution is also nearby. I simply need to put in the little effort and make optimum use of available resources. Sadly very few of us think like this and this is the factor that marks the line between achievers and quitters, winners & losers.

Look at the life of all successful people and you will identify the similar pattern that in circumstances when all others quit believing that there is no hope, no solution or no opportunity these people tend to hang in there a little more, maintained their faith and made optimum use of all available resources and emerged as winner.

Next time when you are in a situation where it seems that you are surrounded by darkness, problems and nothing seems to work out then try to look around with faith, faith in yourself that you can overcome this no matter what, faith in unlimited blessings of Allah that He is with you and will help you. You just need to look with faith and the answers will start to appear and you will find the required solution.

May Allah help you to maintain faith in yourself and Allah’s blessings and help you to emerge as winner in all walks of life (Ameen)

Have a blessed day ahead.

Aisha Javed

The Required Step

Few days back a friend of mine shared a joke that opened doors to new thoughts for me. The joke was:

There was a sardar jee who led a pious life, he always helped others, protect himself from sins and was considered as a very nice man. This sarder Jee through out his life prayed for only one thing that is “ Ohhh Lord please make me win the lottery”. But sadly he never won and died with his dream. When angels brought him before Lord, sardar jee was very angry and even expressed this to Lord that “I led the life as per your instructions, never did anything wrong nor hurt anyone and in return through out my life I just asked for one thing and you didn’t even blessed me with it”. On hearing this Lord smiled and said: “My dear being I approved your prayer on the very first time you asked for it”. Sardar jee was startled. He said “Then how come I never won”. Lord smiled again and said “My dear for that you need to buy a lottery ticket that you never did in your life”.

This is the dilemma of our life too. We see dreams and pray for them to come true and when things don’t happen as per our expectations or as per our dreams we start complaining “why it happened to me”, “why my prayers are not answered”, “why it’s always me who don’t get the desired thing” and so on un ending chain of whys?.

But we never tend to think that what were the factors that stopped us. Stopped us from turning our dreams into reality & from our prayers being answered. Do some self analysis and you will find out that more than 80% of the times it’s because we never take the required step, we never buy the lottery ticket that was necessary to reflect the results of our prayers.

These days many people are talking about “Law of Attraction”. Some believe it’s true and they narrate their success stories and others say please give me a break, this is not reality. Why there is difference in thoughts of these two groups?, law is same but results are different? It’s because their approach is different. One group think about things they want and work for them and in the end they attract it and achieve it while on the other hand the second group only think about their dreams and never take the required action. And only this thing makes their realties different.

Even the word “Attraction:” explains the same thing

Attraction = Attract +Action

Means in order to attract what you want take some action. If you want to loose weight then start exercise, if you want to be businessman then start some business, if you want to become doctor start studying and so on.

Next time when you dream have faith that it can be turned into reality and do take the required step and you will start seeing the patterns of small success that will follow taking you towards your desired destination.

I will end this note with a request:

“Please don’t kill your future with the sword of inaction used today”

Have a very day ahead.

Aisha Javed

It all Matters

Today morning I was waking up my younger brother and he said “Please let me sleep for another 5 minutes, it will make no difference”. For many of you it might seem an ordinary answer but God knows how this simple reply triggered my thought process.

We tend to take few minutes & few times for granted most of time. Sometimes it’s when we have to wake up in morning, sometime we tend to just kill our time by either switching TV channels aimlessly or in roaming around, similarly few times also seem pretty okay when it comes to over speeding, late sitting, eating unhealthy food, smoking few cigarettes, getting angry occasionally and so on.

When we tend to take things so casually we deny their power to impact us, these small things neglected few times tends to make a big difference in our life. Any activity carried out just few harmless times can result in becoming our habit. A few minutes wasted aimlessly when compiled over a life time of a person are equivalent to many days. Few harmless minutes accumulated together can create disasters. To give an example if you move your fingers through the flame of burning candle with speed nothing will happen and your finger will remain un harmed but if you hold it there just for few minutes it will end up in burning your finger.

It’s these small things and few things left unattended in our life that create big differences like it was said:

“A small hole left un attended can sink a big ship”

When it comes to expenses we tend to control the big ones but take small ones very casually. Most of our money is spend on these small things and most of the time, when we don’t even need them. At the end of month just try to roughly calculate how much these apparently small expenses cost you through out the month. Surprised?

 To cut it short try to take care of small things in your life and you will see the BIG difference in your quality of life and next time you tend to thing few minutes, few times and few rupees won’t matter please remember that

“It all does matter”

Try to go home on time few times and see the improvement in your relations, try to appreciate someone few times and see the impact on that person, try to avoid few cigarettes and see the impact on your health, try to avoid killing few minutes and see the increase in your productivity, try to save the few rupees spend on things not needed and see the impact on your bank balance and last but not the least try to remember Allah few times a day and see how your life will change.

Have a blessed day ahead.

Aisha Javed